Happy Mother’s Day! Some truthful quotes- to me as a mother-
“When your mother asks, “Do you want a piece of advice?” it’s a mere formality. It doesn’t matter if you answer yes or no. You’re going to get it anyway.”― Erma Bombeck
“Think for a minute, darling: in fairy tales it’s always the children who have the fine adventures. The mothers have to stay at home and wait for the children to fly in the window.”
― Audrey Niffenegger, The Time Traveler’s Wife
“There’s no bitch on earth like a mother frightened for her kids.”
― Stephen King
Mother and Child
Becoming a mother changes exactly everything. Being a mother means you become the world for a little one, even as you lose your own world. It is a universe sized love that fills one up mentally, physically and emotionally. It really is.
It is also exhausting, bewildering and frightening. Being solely in charge of the life of another, one loved so dearly, might feel overwhelming- and it doesn’t let up for long.
Then my child would throw me a new trick, and my confidence would again be challenged. I consulted books, other mothers, and would try out what sounded right. Sometimes it worked, often it did not. As a new equilibrium became established, life itself would throw something else at me- a new baby, a car breakdown, a lost job of a spouse- on it went.
Adjustments made, love shared, fun and play, the wonder of watching your child grow- life goes by and is totally enriched by motherhood.
Did I make mistakes as a mother? You bet.Did sorrow and tears come along with the Joy- indeed they did. I guess they were the bitter to the sweet needed to make the experience of motherhood more delicious.
Would I do it all over again? In a minute.
Some years ago I was interviewed about my art and life by author Caroline Freedom- http://carolinefreedom.blogspot.com/2010/06/from-time-she-was-preschooler-pat.html.
One question asked and answered reads:CFR: What’s the best (bravest, kindest, most honorable) thing you’ve ever done, the act you’re most proud of?
I am sure that every person acts with small kindnesses many times in their lives. I try to help people, care for the environment and living creatures, listen to the troubles of people with sympathy and volunteer my time occasionally. I guess I am proudest of the time and care I gave to raising my children, and I am rewarded by having them now be such fine adults.
This remains true for me today. The immense effort, work and love put toward raising children pays off totally in the satisfaction of adding fine people to the world. My adult children are my friends now as well as my offspring. I admire and respect both of them, and am proud to be their mom.
One of my kids is now an aspiring musical composer, you have seen me refer to his music at https://www.facebook.com/pages/Adam-Allingham/174774089223111?fref=ts on facebook.
My daughter is an aspiring author/novelist- and has just started a blog about the process of writing and her endeavors toward being published. Check out her blog at https://lcwallingham.wordpress.com/
Happy Mother’s Day- to all of you moms, who work so hard and love so much. Here’s a painting to celebrate you-
Have a lovely day, all!